It is impossible to schedule a parent, that all information that arise include, draft, when bringing up children. At some point, you just want to bring only the most important things on paper, as a regular parenting and holidays, and done with it. Three further details on many parenting plans are not related to, but should:
Hairstyles and piercings
It may seem a little mundane to details in the parenting plan as to when, where and how the children will take to cut their hair.But these are details that result in an intensification of the conflict in a family. If the children are very young, have haircuts every day decisions that are not really a lot of attention you deserve in planning your education. And Piercing is not even on the radar!
When the children are older and start to express their independence and in the expression, but hairstyles and body piercing on important issues between parents and between children and parents. Include a general statement in yourParenting plan that your common philosophy regarding the independence of children in general and specifically to express how they can bring that independence through her hair and body expression. You can include in your parenting plan for a general statement that you understand these issues could arise in the future and how you plan to fix them when they do.
Emergency room or hospitalization
How and when the other parent is notified if a child goes tothe emergency room in a hospital, or a serious medical question? This can especially be a problem if the parents do not live near each other and / or parenting time with a parent is rare.
I had a case where a child was in a serious accident in the hospital and out-of-state parents are not informed at the time. In fact, the parent company did not even know about the incident until several months later, when mentioned by the other children. This situation was full of missedOpportunities for the child and the parents, opportunities for parents to show the child how he / she means to the parents and the opportunities for the child to bond with the parents and the experience of parental love and genuine concern.
Whether your parenting plan, shared / joint education, the plan should assure that each parent will be informed if a child is in hospital or a serious medical issue.
Driving
As hard as it might imagine thatTheir little children will one day take the time comes to march, and the children grow up. If your children are already near driving age, when you prepare your parenting plan, you must not put all the details about driving in the plan. But you should discuss to drive when you prepare your plan and some general agreement on the issue.
Will you share the cost of driver education? Expect the child to bear that cost? Will the ridedepending on grades or other criteria? Even if you choose to these problems in your original plan address, you can include a statement as to your thoughts on driving and how you will deal with issues related to the journey into the future.
In cases of divorce or separation, are working together on a comprehensive education plan seems frightening and uncomfortable. If you pass the time at the beginning, however, some serious reflection and discussion on the future parenting questions, and give your childrenwill benefit everyone.
© 2009, Mary Wollard, JD, Family Solutions Center, LLC
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